Friday, December 4, 2009

Training Begins!

Now that our son Asher is in the world Blair and I begin the multi-faceted, multi-year training process. Part of that training is to teach him how to submit to our authority and ultimately to God’s authority. Blair and I already have husband/ wife discipleship time when we read Scripture together, we discuss the Scripture and I explain it for application, and then we pray together. Gradually Asher will be included in this time as he grows. I understand this to be my responsibility as the head of my home. It is also my responsibility to bring my son into the weekly congregational worship of our church. This comes to a tension I’ve already had to deal with. I appreciate our diligent and caring nursery workers but we intend to train Asher to worship from the pew. We know will be a challenge but we’re thinking about the big picture so that the challenging years will have a purpose (and an end in sight). I’ve also gone on record with several about not having a children’s church for the post-nursery years (4 years and up). This is not popular and in fairness it is a new way of looking at things for some. I came across a response from Dr. Voddie Baucham to a question about bringing children in worship as opposed to sequestering them in the nursery or a children’s church type program.

QUESTION: Most churches send the children to the nursery to create a “more worshipful environment”. How do you conduct worship with disruptive children?

RESPONSE: “We encourage all families to bring their children into the sanctuary. Cooing babies don’t bother us one bit. We recognize that some infants will need to be taken out for feedings, etc., and we have no problem with that. However, we do not provide a nursery. The Bible frequently mentions children in the context of the corporate gathering of God’s people (Deut. 31:12-13; Ezra 10:1; Matt. 18:1-5; 19:13-15; Eph. 6:1-4; Col. 3:20). Moreover, we believe it is important for children to worship with their parents, and to be taught how to sit through the service. Nurseries tend to hide problems that need to be corrected. Children who cannot sit through a service need training and discipline, not isolation. Moreover, if these children cannot sit through the service, they are probably giving their parents fits at home (thus their desire to dump them off at the nursery on Sunday morning). We patiently teach inexperienced families how to walk with their children through this process and it blesses their home, their marriage, their relationship with their children and the testimony of the church.”

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